resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Has anyone created a family cookbook? Or had other print-on-demand experience?
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
The kidlet gets all four wisdom teeth removed next month, and at least two of them are impacted.

I can tell her my experience, but I'm hoping things have improved somewhat in the 25 years since I had mine out.

Does anyone want to share recent experiences or tips?
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
I went to a new gyno on Thursday and asked for a counselor referral. She said, "What's happening in your life over the past eighteen months?" Ten tearful minutes later, when I finished up the list with "and also menopause," she said, "Oh, my," and suggested a six- month course of Lexapro.

Have any of y'all tried it? What's been your experience? I know I'm more fortunate than many of my imaginary friends in that I'm not coming from a lifetime of ongoing depression, but it's gradually dawning on me that crying twice a day for a year and a half is maybe not "just hormones."

Now what?

Jun. 20th, 2013 03:58 pm
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
OK, networking experts, question time.

A former co-worker of mine has given me the name of her contact at an employer in New City, "if you are inclined to reach out to her with your talents." The contact is not a hiring manager; she's director of PR. The work I seek is very much not in PR, which the ex-co-worker knows because she's been talking to me about whether I would enjoy doing the same job SHE does.

-- so what am I supposed to do with this info?
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Anybody know how to go back to receiving kudos announcements in plain text instead of the new design?
resonant: otter floating on its back, eating a clam. Text: KEEP CLAM (keep clam)
1. I start things and I don't finish them. This is probably my biggest flaw in the workplace. I need to find some sort of approach to fixing this.

2. It would be hilariously predictable if you came back to this entry a year from now and I've answered the first half of the comments.
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Can anyone recommend good books or online resources on "masculinity" from a feminist perspective? -- i.e. ways of looking at the sort of ritualized, semi-humorous homophobia and misogyny that you see in young male culture?

Believe it or not, the spouse needs this for seminary; I told him I'd poll my Hip Bent Feminist Librarian peoples.
resonant: A crow with something in its mouth. Text: KEEP CALM AND CARRION (keep calm and carrion)
Anybody out there have a good enough handle on how detectives work that they'd like to help me brainstorm for a non-fannish romance project? I have one of these situations where, like, I need X but not Y, blah, blah, parrots and sugargliders, and shouldn't search warrants come into this process at some point, but in some way that doesn't distract us from hot people making out.

In other random news, my bento obsession as been re-ignited by the discovery that there are Moomin bento boxes. Whyyyyyyy must they make things I want and shouldn't spend money on? You know you've got it bad when your thirteen-year-old tells you you shouldn't buy any more of a thing until you sell a few of the ones you already own.
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (smrt)
Thirteen is a terrific age -- smart, self-sufficient, involved enough with peers to have personal goals but not involved enough to find parental advice completely unwelcome.

But I look at the kidlet and I think, "Holy shit! You're going to be in high school in less than a year and a half!"

Yesterday I made an offhand reference to teaching her how to save money at the grocery store, and to my surprise, she was very interested in this. So I'm thinking I've got a window where she's old enough to learn anything I might want to teach her, but not so old that she doesn't want to hear it.

With that in mind, I throw out to my imaginary friends:

What do you wish someone had taught you before you left your parents' home?

Personally, I wish someone had taught me:


  1. That my vocabulary and pattern-recognition abilities would not always be able to take the place of actual study skills. (It would have been tough going to persuade me of this.)
  2. How to make and keep a budget.
  3. How to plan and cook meals. (My mother taught me all sorts of recreational cooking, but never involved me in the more routine aspects. When I went to college, I could bake bread, but had to learn to cook rice out of a book.)
  4. How to be assertive.
  5. Some real information about getting the most out of college -- which my parents weren't in any position to teach me, since at that point my mother hadn't been to college and my dad only needed the piece of paper so he could get promoted at a government job.
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Any of my imaginary friends in (or otherwise intimately familiar with) Dubuque, Iowa?
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Does anyone know how to make Google a little bit less helpful? Like to fix it so when I search for "Woolf" I don't have to tell it I don't want "wolf"? (Or that when I ego-surf I don't need "resonate" or "resonance"?)
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Stupid question)
Anybody out there in Italy, from Italy, or otherwise very familiar with Italian? I need help with some names and some slang -- not contemporary but older.
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Tonight the kidlet, who is twelve, asked me to define "fursona."

Um, yes. Dr. Spock did not prepare me for these moments.

-----

In other news: Are any of y'all involved in university public relations? The spouse is looking for some advice. (U.S. folks preferred, since higher education probably works differently in other countries.)
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Friends and assorted creatures, what should I do for my birthday?

We're having an event for the spouse's birthday next week -- not a party, per se, but at least something that involves a gathering of people who don't live with us in our house -- which frankly uses up my never-very-copious supply of extroversion for at least a month.

I'm sure the spouse and the kidlet will put together anything I ask them for. I'm torn between wanting to be pampered and wanting to be left in splendid solitude.

What do you like to do on your birthday?
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
If I wanted to try out meditation, can anyone recommend a good book to start with?

Bonus points if its way of approaching things is not too relentlessly visual; I do better with auditory 'images' than with visual ones.
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Stupid question)
The more I swim, the stronger I get in previously neglected muscles. Which, OK, yay for strong, of course, but it also means that I've got some tightness that isn't touched by any of the stretches I know.

Eventually, after some weeks of increasing discomfort, I did figure out how to stretch my trapezius (and will share, if anybody's having the same problem), but I've got two lower-body areas left that I can't get at.

So if I describe where it hurts, could those of you who are good at this kind of stuff -- particularly swimmers -- describe or link to suggested stretches?

[editing to add: I'm quite belly-enhanced, so anything that requires me to fold right in half with both legs at once is going to be incompatible with breathing.]

The first stiff area sits right on top of my hipbones. Leaning over sideways doesn't do anything for it, nor does lying on my back and pointing my knees in various directions or kneeling and pointing my butt in various directions.

The second one is in the lowest possible part of my lower back, like right over my tailbone. Toe touches help a little but not much.

Anybody have any suggestions? I'd be eternally grateful and sleep a lot better at night.

HP people?

Aug. 7th, 2010 10:16 am
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Stupid question)
I had a request today to beta a Harry/Snape novella for a first-time writer. I'm not up for betaing for someone I don't know in a fandom I'm not in any more. Can anyone rec me a beta community or other resource that I can share with her?

Ladybits

May. 6th, 2010 10:28 pm
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Who wants to talk to me about the Diva Cup? Specifically about what size to choose if the labeling conflicts with my usual experience?
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (zen fen)
Tapping into all the Poetry Month enthusiasm with a request: I'm looking for poems about long love. Not new love, not yearning for love that's about to happen, and not bad old bitter marriage-that-used-to-be-love, but established, mature love.

I've been surprised (and rather depressed) at how difficult this is to find.

One poem that I like quite well is The Country of Marriage by Wendell Berry. Parts of it don't quite ring true to me -- they sound more like a man talking to his deity than a man talking to his wife -- but I love this:


Our bond is no little economy based on the exchange
of my love and work for yours, so much for so much
of an expendable fund. We don't know what its limits are --
that puts us in the dark.
resonant: Cat biting cake (Caaaaake)
How do you manage your recipe collection?

For a long time, I was perfectly happy with my card file. But then I started using tags for LJ/DW, and now everything in life that doesn't have tags is really annoying to me, because why can't one recipe be under Poultry and Grilling and Quick & Easy and Summer and Kidlet's Favorites?

Also, it would be handy to be able to link up a recipe with a side dish that works really well with it, or with another one that uses up the leftover roast chicken or the other half of that tub of ricotta or what have you. Maybe even to see when was the last time I cooked it.

I've been half tempted to post my recipes as locked DW entries so I could tag them, or to start a new journal just for recipes. But I'm betting there's some better way out there.

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