resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
from [personal profile] china_shop, because I miss you kitties daily even though I can't seem to sustain a posting habit.

So what have you been up to?
Nearly everything is going under major life changes; aside from that, mostly working and driving. I did take a long road trip with my mom, which was lovely.

Also, the kidlet and I are volunteering at the animal shelter, or, to put it another way, we perform the public service of petting cats a couple of evenings a week.

Major life changes? Same old same old?
Where even to begin ...

The spouse is done with school, ordained, and working as a Presbyterian pastor.

Unfortunately, his job is in a town of 3,000 an hour away. So from Sunday afternoon to Friday afternoon, the kidlet and I live in a quite tiny but rather charming duplex in New City, and on the weekends we live with the spouse and the cat in a rambling, eccentric, amazing 1800-vintage house provided by the church.

The church is tiny and friendly and sweet, though a bit less progressive than we would prefer.

The kidlet is 16, getting ready to be a junior in high school, and has come out as agender this year. The kidlet prefers the pronoun 'they,' but I spent four years in journalism school and find a singular 'they' kind of painful, so I'm trying to avoid pronouns altogether. This is easier when talking to the kidlet than when talking about the kidlet. Aside from wrestling with gender, the kidlet is writing fantasy and science fiction, singing, drawing, studying physics, and generally making my brain feel old.

Professionally, I'm in a frustrating place. I'm still working at Teranerd. Generally I like the company, but a massive round of layoffs shook me up; I'm bored with the work I do; also, this job won't stay in this location forever, and I have no desire to go to Minnesota when it moves. I'd like to get project management certified, but I feel like I have zero energy to devote to studying for the exam.

I adore New City and could easily settle here for good, but somehow I'm not making friends here. (Well, normally I'd be using weekends and church to look for friends, but my weekends and my church are both happening in Spouseville.)

What fandom are you in/do you spend most of your time in?
I really miss having a fandom. [personal profile] astolat writes Fast & Furious, so I read Fast & Furious; [identity profile] writes Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell, so I read Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell. I'm much looking forward to Marvel-universe movies but not feeling particularly fannish about them.

Where do you hang out online?
Here, if anywhere. I abandoned my old Tumblr because I couldn't handle the constant undertone of judgment and imminent attack; the kidlet helped me carefully curate a new one that subscribed to basically nothing but the kidlet's own page, some baby-animal pages, Important Birds, Ursula Vernon's personal page, Reapersun, and Iguanamouth.

What are you reading?
Lots of nonfiction about the Mississippi River, which might or might not end up being research for something fictional. I highly recommend Lee Sandlin's Wicked River: The Mississippi When Last It Was Wild.

What are you watching?
Marvel movies. The kidlet makes me look at Homestuck vids sometimes.

What are you making?
I think maybe I'm fallow? Because I'd hate to think I'd just run dry.

What are you squeeing about today?
The dumbo octopus.

If you could rope old fandom friends into a new fandom, it would be.....
I'm waiting for someone to rope me in!

I should really watch/read/dive into _______ and then come talk to you about it!
Something fantastic that I don't already know about.

What else is on your mind?
If my life were a film, all this change would happen in a nice neat montage. But I'm in the middle of it, and it's occupying pretty much all the energy I've got.
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
I had been planning to ask questions for a month, so I'm going to copy [personal profile] muccamukk and start with self-introductions.

If you want to participate, share this in your own space so your followers can get to know you.

Call me ...
Other things I've been known as (that I'm willing to share) ...
A bit about my nonfannish life ...
A bit about my fannish life ...
Things I'm super-enthusiastic about ...

A brief guide to Resonant )
resonant: Pogo says: Sometimes I don't follow you and so far it allus has paid off. (I don't follow you)
So my lovable puppylike ninth-grade boyfriend just got in touch on Facebook. He's living on a farm some miles outside our hometown, and his only neighbor is ... my pharmaceutically enhanced yet endearingly goofy twelfth-grade boyfriend.

If they could get Wonder If He Knows He's Gay Yet and Epic Love, Epic Daddy Issues out there, it would be a whole little colony of my teenage mistakes.

The spouse once said to me, "I don't know why your parents are always so nice to me," and I said, "That's because you haven't met the boys that I could have ended up with."
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Windfall Meme, spotted @ [personal profile] gatewaygirl: what I would do if $N dropped into my lap in some legal non-taxable (or post-tax) way?

$10: It would just go into the cash already in my wallet. Unless that's against the rules? Let's say it's against the rules. In that case, some midday when I wasn't working I'd use it for pho and Vietnamese iced coffee.

Read more... )
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
(It's a favorite of my father, who shares the trait.)

A guy takes a job at a bank. The first day, his superivisor hands him a bundle of bills. "There ought to be a hundred in this stack. I need you to count and make sure."

The guy starts counting. "One ... two ... three ... four ... five ... six ... seven ..." Then he hands the stack back to his supervisor. "If it's right so far, I'm sure it's right all the way through."
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Or: Who wants to help the Res decide what she wants to be when/if she grows up? (Not cutting because I want maximum input, but I'll try to keep it brief.)

I've been doing the exercises in What Color Is Your Parachute, and have ended up with a list of transferable skills and a list of interests.


Solve problems/see patterns


Social sciences
Design of spaces
Communication studies
Speculative fiction

The next step is to ask everyone I know: Do these suggest any job titles to you? Do they suggest any job fields to you?

The best job I ever had was one that I didn't know such a thing existed until I found myself interviewing for it, so I'm very open to unexpected suggestions from you brainy and extremely diverse people. (Please feel free to share this post; I'm very interested in advice from everyone, whether I know them or not.)
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Take a picture of yourself right now. Don’t change your clothes. Don’t fix your hair. Just take a picture. Post that picture with no editing. (Except maybe to get the image size down to something reasonable. Don’t go posting an eight megapixel image.) Include these instructions.

Read more... )
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
From [ profile] sanj, with a few changes:

Three things I learned from my father.

- Fill the sink with water before you start cooking, so you can wash your dishes as you go along.
- It's better to do too much thank-you-note writing than too little.
- If you think you might need to turn your headlights on? You need to turn your headlights on.

Three things I learned from my mother.

- Sure you can cook that! You have a recipe, don't you?
- Human beings make a lot more sense once you study personality type.
- You're not going to lose your kid's respect by saying, "I learned something new about that, so I've changed my mind." Or even, "I made the wrong decision the first time."

Read more... )


Apr. 17th, 2006 08:30 pm
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (My mind)
I discovered a strange thing today: If you're cleaning up your lawn after a big storm, and if you have a bag full of sticks and small limbs that are more resilient than what you normally pick up off the lawn, and if one of them snaps back and hits you unexpectedly on the fingertip when you put your hand in the bag, it feels amazingly similar to a really bad static electricity shock.
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Genius)
I was tempted to do that meme where I ask you all about your impressions of me as a writer, except that I figure there's nobody out there who's half as fascinated by my writing as I am. So, taking my cue from [ profile] godofwine, I'll give you my list of the telltale signs that you're reading a Res story:

Telltale Signs )

Also, last night I dreamed I was playing bingo with pirates, so clearly my life is lacking in excitement.
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Ant again)
I like [ profile] cereta's "10 Things" meme. It's like I get to do a FAQ on myself.

10 Things You Probably Already Know About Me )
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (My mind)
Root canal was today. The plan of listening to books on the iPod fell through -- the process is just noisy enough to drown out key bits of plot -- but I was happy to have my music with me.

They put a waterproof thing in my mouth to isolate the area they were working on, presumably so that I wouldn't get little fragments of tooth all over my tongue. I haven't had a mouthful of latex since I was single. The flavor has not improved any.*

It was a little unnerving to see smoke curling up out of my mouth, but it wasn't actually painful. Yet. Ask me when the numbness wears off. For the moment I'm more troubled by drool than anything else.

* I said this to the spouse when I got home and he stopped dead in his tracks with shock. Then he said, "I started to ask you, 'What kind of debauchery were you getting up to, anyway?' and then I remembered that you were getting up to it with me."


Also, randomly: Our local newspaper's headline about Harriet Miers' appointment said: "Female appointed to Supreme Court."

This is either an appallingly bad headline, or a very good one, in that they've pinpointed her one and only qualification.


Sep. 14th, 2005 10:39 pm
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Genius)
Things I Learned From Blogpulse and Google's Blogsearch:

- That when that unbalanced girl accused several dozen HP writers of stalking her and posting her photos on nasty dirty porn sites, among the people who believed her and banned me were both Wizards For Bush and the Conservative Fangirls Coalition.

- That it's really common for someone to post a comment on a rec saying, "Wow, that was a great story," and never say anything to the writer at all -- what's up with that?

- That when my name shows up in those memes that randomly fill in blanks with people on your friends list, it's usually to do something attention-grabbing, such as insist on walking around naked, or set the back seat on fire.

- That when it comes to online life, there are big advantages to having Jim Ellison-style intimacy problems.

Top five

Jul. 19th, 2005 08:32 pm
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
Hey, why not. Here's a meme last seen chez [ profile] darthfox:

Ask me for "top five" lists of pretty much anything, and I will list you my top five of that thing or things.

Note that if you ask for something that requires any knowledge of pop culture that can't be gleaned from reading slash, I'm likely to disappoint, as I'm sadly out of touch with my own culture.


Jun. 14th, 2005 09:56 pm
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Harry eyes)
I have new glasses. They're sexylibrarianly and a little bit stern and perfectly adorable. Also much, much smaller than my old glasses, so that I'm constantly thinking, "There's a smudge on my glasses," and then thinking, "No, wait, that's the frame."

The spouse says they make me look like a law student. They make me want to smile ironically at mirrors, and also to dye my hair red, even though I did that once and it totally didn't work with my skin color.

Also, they are not bifocals, though the next pair probably will be.

Also, long-term text-reading on the computer used to make my eyes hurt one way, and now it makes my eyes hurt a different way. Hooray for progress.
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
I think I first saw this chez [ profile] stresskitten.

Ten things I've done that you probably haven't.

1. Interviewed the state beekeeper of West Virginia

2. Been bitten by a snake

3. Ridden with Santa Claus in the Christmas parade

4. Spent the night sleeping on a staircase landing. With four other people.

5. Had a job cleaning bathrooms at a kindergarten.

6. Been a personal organizer for bored rich women.

7. Been polygraphed.

8. Seen a bear cub in the wild.

9. Eaten pickled pigs' feet.

10. Held a cat as she died.
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Fraser tongue)
Yesterday the kidlet was sitting beside me on the couch, and for some reason she decided she wanted to read one of our health books. Which is how I was forced -- suddenly and without warning -- to explain to an almost-six-year-old an illustration of proper condom use. Man, these things just come out of nowhere.

So since I'm in a tell-all mood now, ask me a question. Any question. About any of my stories, or what color my cat's paw pads are, or what's the grossest thing that ever came out my nose, or anything. I'll either answer or refuse rudely.


May. 25th, 2004 05:43 pm
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
The original sci-fi erotica I'm writing for [ profile] dementordelta (which I'm now thinking of as "the pouch porn") is getting a lovely polka of a beta, and I'm psyched to do a second draft tomorrow. I'm all excited about it.

In other news, I'm somewhat freaked out because without planning to at all, I went and told my best friend I'm bisexual. This is not a confession I routinely make, in the nonvirtual world -- the spouse knows, but I don't share it freely -- but it came up in conversation, and there was this moment where really my choice was to lie out loud with words ("Oh, yeah, I don't get that either") or to tell the truth.

It was terrifying.

She ... says I'm wrong. "You're not, really," she says.

This is reassuringly normal for her, actually, so my eye-rolling is much softened by relief. However, I still spent the rest of the afternoon feeling strangely freaked out. Guilty, actually, as if I'd done something wrong.

I think I don't tell the truth enough. I need more practice.
resonant: Brian from The Breakfast Club: Demented and sad, but social (Default)
First there was the LJ community for the Atkins people, and then there was the LJ community for the Weight Watchers people. And then, tonight, I got an invitation to join [ profile] fandom_fatties.

And, uh-uh. Sorry.

One of the things I'm working on is not telling other people how to live their lives, so y'all can do as you like.

As for me, though -- in 2004, I'm going to resolve only to be sweet to my little dumpling-shaped body.

I'm going to ply it with pleasures -- cheesecake and yoga and fresh-squeezed orange juice with a mint leaf and long walks in the park. I'm going to drape it with things that feel good and slather it with things that smell nice. I'm going to take it out dancing every now and then and show it off.

I'm not going to deprive it of things it needs. I'm not going to fan my own contempt of it. I'm not going to try to change it.

I am, in fact, going to treat it as though it were the body of someone I loved.

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