You've spent your whole life thinking that looking at incomplete information and figuring out what question to ask and who to ask it to is ... cheating, somehow?
I kinda want to shake whomever taught you that. It's such a valuable skill! I wish so much I could eradicate the whole concept of BOOTSTRAPS from humanity's collective un/consciousness. We are social animals! We're hardwired to rely on each other for physical and emotional/intellectual needs and brainwashing us out of that mindset is so damaging.