I think t-shirts are the answer. It's there, in the open, but you don't have to say it, and if they want to talk about it, they have to bring it up.
Not that I have a t-shirt, oh no. (Well, I have one that says 'Bi NZ Maid', but the writing is small and no-one reads it: they just look at the 'buy NZ made' logo.) I have pride rings that I wore for some years; people would ask about them and, depending on circumstances, I'd answer 'my coloured curtain-ring collection' or 'I got them at the gay and lesbian fair' (suitably vague). I have a 'Go Fish' t-shirt, which is I guess only going to be noticed by queer women anyway.
But yeah, especially now I have a male partner, it's so much easier to come out non-verbally. (No, not non-verbally like that! Like the other thing!) I should practise what I preach.
She's your best friend? Hence being open with her is good. Don't feel guilty. (This is advice, rather than the bossy order it sounds like. ;-)
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Not that I have a t-shirt, oh no. (Well, I have one that says 'Bi NZ Maid', but the writing is small and no-one reads it: they just look at the 'buy NZ made' logo.) I have pride rings that I wore for some years; people would ask about them and, depending on circumstances, I'd answer 'my coloured curtain-ring collection' or 'I got them at the gay and lesbian fair' (suitably vague). I have a 'Go Fish' t-shirt, which is I guess only going to be noticed by queer women anyway.
But yeah, especially now I have a male partner, it's so much easier to come out non-verbally. (No, not non-verbally like that! Like the other thing!) I should practise what I preach.
She's your best friend? Hence being open with her is good. Don't feel guilty. (This is advice, rather than the bossy order it sounds like. ;-)