Ah, and how did Robin's mother know Mr. Creepy had talked to the kids? Either Robin talked to her mother and was given signals that she needed to appease the adult man, or Mr. Creepy did a proactive strike with Robin's mom, to disarm her about his interactions with her daughter.
And why on earth make jokes about a five year old dating a twelve year old? That's inappropriate, too.
I can't begin to count the number of conversations I've had with kids and adults about being sexually abused, but this situation has a lot of red flags.
Talking with both girls about boundaries is an excellent idea. You could even bring up the tickling incident from your childhood as an example.
When any parents try and get their kid to give me a hug or a kiss I always stop them and explain that it's not a good idea to give kids the notion that they are supposed to give physcial affection to adults and why this innocent gesture on their part could backfire, could install in their child the idea that adults are owed such touching. (If it's the kid's idea, then yeah, hugs are fine).
Mr. Creepy doesn't come across to me as having poor social skills, he comes across as a predator, checking out the prey for the vulnerable ones he can safely attack.
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Date: 3/6/11 01:30 pm (UTC)And why on earth make jokes about a five year old dating a twelve year old? That's inappropriate, too.
I can't begin to count the number of conversations I've had with kids and adults about being sexually abused, but this situation has a lot of red flags.
Talking with both girls about boundaries is an excellent idea. You could even bring up the tickling incident from your childhood as an example.
When any parents try and get their kid to give me a hug or a kiss I always stop them and explain that it's not a good idea to give kids the notion that they are supposed to give physcial affection to adults and why this innocent gesture on their part could backfire, could install in their child the idea that adults are owed such touching. (If it's the kid's idea, then yeah, hugs are fine).
Mr. Creepy doesn't come across to me as having poor social skills, he comes across as a predator, checking out the prey for the vulnerable ones he can safely attack.
Laurie