Mom's death
Jan. 8th, 2025 11:22 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
resonantI'd appreciate kind thoughts or prayers for my family; my mother died yesterday.
I think it was a good death. She was nearly ninety and had been struggling with increasing dementia for several years, and her health started to decline this summer.
About five years ago she suddenly began very urgently working on writing down all the stories of her parents and grandparents, her childhood on the farm, how she met her dearest friend, how she met my dad. We had lots of great conversations, and now I have this priceless document. "I don't know why, but now just seems like the right time," she said.
I won't be able to answer comments, but I appreciate any good thoughts.
I think it was a good death. She was nearly ninety and had been struggling with increasing dementia for several years, and her health started to decline this summer.
About five years ago she suddenly began very urgently working on writing down all the stories of her parents and grandparents, her childhood on the farm, how she met her dearest friend, how she met my dad. We had lots of great conversations, and now I have this priceless document. "I don't know why, but now just seems like the right time," she said.
I won't be able to answer comments, but I appreciate any good thoughts.
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Date: 1/8/25 06:07 pm (UTC)How marvelous that your mom had the foresight and desire to create this document and have these conversations with you :)
Many many hugs
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Date: 1/8/25 06:11 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 1/8/25 06:14 pm (UTC)I'm so sorry. I hope the next few days and weeks go as easily for you as they can. Also, what a wonderful gift that book of memories is! I wish my parents would do the same.
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Date: 1/8/25 06:26 pm (UTC)Iām very sorry.
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Date: 1/8/25 07:06 pm (UTC)Thinking of you for sure.
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Date: 1/8/25 07:47 pm (UTC)ššš
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Date: 1/8/25 08:09 pm (UTC)how wonderful she shared those stories - that's a real gift!
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Date: 1/8/25 08:23 pm (UTC)I'm so glad she wrote things down. That's a gift beyond price.
My mom's been gone now for 5 years and my relationship with her continues to shift and change. Most of the grief has transmuted to gratitude. But that took time. Be gentle with yourself.
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Date: 1/8/25 08:39 pm (UTC)raises a light to her memory
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