resonant: Ray Kowalski (Due South) (Default)
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Additional notes to young writers who saw Cobra Kai and got sucked into Karate Kid and are now trying to set stories in the foreign country that is 1985:

- The shorts were that short. It was normal. Men were allowed to have thighs in the '80s.

- The hair was that clean and shiny. It was normal. On TV even scary criminal types all looked like their hairdryers were still warm.

- "Thirsty" and "the D" didn't have any slang meaning then, and they wouldn't have made anybody laugh.

- Wikipedia says the phrase "safe sex" was being used as early as '84, but it wasn't really mainstream; condoms were generally thought of as birth control. Most of them were unlubricated and really, really dry. They'd suck all the moisture out of your Parts. I was 21 in 1985 and was unaware of the whole concept of lube, though I was familiar with spermicidal gel.

- No internet meant that it was difficult and embarrassing to get hold of porn, so a lot of people had just never seen any. No internet also meant teens went around believing some things about sex that were really spectacularly wrong.

- Spandex wasn't common except in leotards. Jeans had no stretch, zero. So they were loose enough in the leg that when you unfastened them, they pretty much just fell to the ground.

- Earphones were little sponge-covered things the size of Oreos strung on a length-adjustable arc of metal. They neither went into the ear nor fully covered the ear. They really didn't block outside sound at all unless you had the music turned up as high as it would go.

- You can go right on imagining these guys in boxer-briefs if you like, but I promise you they were wearing white Jockeys.

Edited to add a link to [personal profile] feklar42's addition on the subject of consent and date rape, which is an area where attitudes were very different in 1985.

Parental Porn Stash!

Date: 6/14/21 03:55 pm (UTC)
feklar42: I needed to spend more time online. Not. (Default)
From: [personal profile] feklar42
Me too, though the stack wasn't that well hidden--it was like 3 feet tall. It was in the attic and the door to the attic was next to my bedroom and I went up there to explore when bored. I remember staying up at night reading the cartoons and fantasies and not knowing a) that I was turned on or b) why it was the pictures of women that did it.
Edited Date: 6/14/21 03:56 pm (UTC)

Re: Parental Porn Stash!

Date: 6/24/21 04:59 pm (UTC)
feklar42: I needed to spend more time online. Not. (Default)
From: [personal profile] feklar42
This reminded me of the time I was with a twentysomething group of friends and we found an old copy of (I think) the joy of sex. The only chapter that really stands out to me was, about what to do if your male partner makes a move on you while you're sleeping or he thinks you're sleeping. They meant penetrative sex, not just groping you to see if he could wake you up horny. They recommended just letting him do his thing and play into his fantasy by pretending to be asleep. I think the chapter title may actually have been the "Rape" of Morpheus... There was absolutely no concept of consent, which is why I think it stuck with me.

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